I am huge believer of the benefits of coaching.
Coaches are life markers, life savers, they help us buy guiding us through the hard times in our lifes.
I have a personal trainer, a personal development coach, I had a coach to find a job in the US. Hell, if I had more money, I would have a business coach, a nutritionist, etc… I make these investments on myself because if I don’t nobody will do it for me. And if I don’t believe in me well who will?
There is no shame in needing help. We don’t hold the truth, we are not wise enough to handle everything by ourselves.
From my various experiences it’s a very interesting and learning experience to have a coach.
Think about it, that person helping you is so passionate about a topic, that they turned it into a job. It’s always good to have an outside perspective on your situation and somebody to be accountable to.
Recently I have been reading different articles and worked on with my personal development coach (her website is here) about the WHY.
It’s an interesting time of the year to speak about it. We are all making new resolutions and goals for the year.
And I think one of the many reasons we don’t follow through is because our Why is not stronger or precise enough.
It’s extremely important because it applies to all the areas of our life.
Why do you want this job?
Why do you want to build this project on your free time?
Why do you want a house?
Why do you run?
Why do you want this relationship?
Why do you want to move abroad?
Why do you want to have a family?
Why does this matter to you?
These are the few questions I had on my mind the past couples of years and got me where I am today. It took me months or years to work on them. Some of them have been changing a lot. Some are still a work in progress. But because my Why was and is strong, true to myself and my values, I have been able to pursue and achieve my goals.
If your Why is not strong enough and doesn’t match your values and your core, you won’t be able to lose your extra pounds, start your company, make that trip, take the risk of having this relationship. You won’t be able to make the things that really make you happy and give your life a meaning. You will just keep moving forward very sad and frustrated.
Errors, trials and failures are part of the process. It will happen over and over again until you adapt yourself. But you won’t stand your obstacles and get to where you want, if you don’t have your why and your finale vision.
When you add up all your whys, you have a good vision of what a life of meaning is for you so it’s easier (not easy, easier) to work towards it.
Yes, it’s hard to define your why (that’s where the coach is good for you) and it’s something that can change over the time. Don’t forget to work on it, dream of it and make it grow with you.
The why is what helps you get up in the morning, stay awake late at night, makes you stay home to work for yourself, choose that food, change this relationship, start meditating…
The why is what allows you to keep going when you have a hard time, the dream, the biggest picture. The why is that feeling that you have in your gut that makes you get up when you are down.